Getting to know the area

Today is the day.
After few days in torreon where my family is, I've been asking around about the zone of silence and so far they are discouraging me of not going to the area, the violence is quite bad.
It's really interesting how every one has been in contact with bullets or "balaceras" and the way they describe the events are so normal, like if there was an normal occurrence.
One of my cousins that works for the police told me in a very normal and relaxed way the amount of bodies found each day with messages communicating to the other's gang, the last one read "this is what happens when you kill innocent people"
One of my uncles told me in a cheerful and funny way that the best friend of her daughter was rude to the owner of a popular bar and embarrassed him in front of his friends so he settle her with two shots on her head.
And a taxi driver told me not to trust police he made a commthe that in a recent occasion police was called because of house burglary and during the inspection police were taking thing for themselves.